Intense sex chats
Their parents and extended families have absolutely none.But each Indian family works in its own complicated way (don’t take it personally, I know “we’re like that only”;)).Also, notice how everyone in the world of TV and film tends to be into very standard, kissing and missionary-type things. Miiiight have been helpful for someone to warn us that one day, the person we’re having sex with might bring up something that sounds entirely unappealing.Or that we might have preferences that other people think are weird. Adults of the world: you know when you were telling us about how the sperm fertilises the egg etc, etc?
So the middle ground here is to know only as much as is necessary, and in this case you have a right to demand that information from your wife. Tell her first that you love her as she is, and that you have realized that finding out intricate details about her past life is not going to help your relationship. Between the two of you, you might have issues (every couple has).The flying Scotsman (made that up, please don’t attempt to look it up in case it’s real and horrifying) looked so sexy, and easy to do. Now you’re uncomfortable and feel a bit rubbish about your sexual prowess. Topics included: why not cumming doesn’t mean your partner isn’t doing a good job, how orgasms are complex delicate things that are sometimes like trying to catch feathers with a tiny butterfly net and the concept that you can still have fun, enjoyable sex without arriving at completion every time.Again, sexual preferences: something that’s mysteriously NEVER MENTIONED in sex education classes. This disturbed me deeply and we’ve had innumerable discussions about this since then. Recently others in the family eavesdropped on us and unfortunately managed to listen in on some of our private conversations regarding this issue, i.e. This was deeply humiliating and painful for both of us. At a very early stage I’d started suspecting that my wife had had sex before marriage.