Dealing dating man kids
Recent studies show that one in three of us will become part of a step-family situation at some time in our lives.In theory this is often a welcome aside to meeting a match you really connect with but occasionally other people’s children can cause problems in a relationship, especially if the break up of the family was fairly recent or bitter.And there’s a strong chance your separated man has a long way to go.( still married; just saying…) Now before anyone accuses me of picking on men, let me hasten to say that separated women can be just as “challenging” to date as separated men.The ex will need time to see that you are not going to try and steal their children away from them or try to be a better mum/dad than they are.Your partner is too soft /strict It may seem to you that your partner doesn’t discipline their children in the way you think they should and that is why there are problems.
I also hasten to add that not separated man is disastrous to date – and should be considered as a unique individual.
You may feel very nervous and just like the beginning of any relationship it can feel awkward at first.
The trouble is that kids aren’t like adults and won’t bother to hide their feelings if they are uncomfortable around you – they may even be openly hostile or rude, depending on their age.
No-one is asking you to love them but they are a really important part of your partner’s life and unless you can develop a healthy relationship with them it is unlikely that your relationship with your partner will develop very far.
Whatever you do don’t express dislike or negative feelings about them directly to your partner; parents are usually sensitive and protective about their kids.