Dating in a new city

I will not purport to know the perfectly right reasons to date.

What I will do though is say that reflexive dating is not the answer when you move to a new city.

) are determined to move from, say, DC to, say, San Francisco, then is there a point in actively trying to date when your mind and body are dying to blow this taco stand and get to the new, errr, taco stand?

Add the inevitable traffic and ruthlessness of the city (every coastal city is “ruthless” compared to the Midwest I guess) to the mix and you have the following love story — After some work and reflection, I found myself in that happy median between lust and romance.Arriving in Los Angeles as a completely single man meant that my first instinct was to build a network of women to date or potentially date. The childish instinct to build a network of women to actively or potentially date may be simple in a college setting.However, in an adult setting of a large city where I knew almost absolutely no one, the negative consequences of reflexive dating kicked in and very quickly went into overdrive.My ideal reason to date became ‘if you meet women you can communicate well with and have a good time being around, the possibilities are endless.’ But getting to this reason meant I didn’t just start dating reflexively once I got to a new city.Each person can find their own ideal reason to date.

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