10 rules of dating etiquette

We cannot be assured any longer that the deceased was involved in any organized religion.If a minister is asked to officiate at the service, he or she is in charge and will ask (or should ask) the deceased loved ones for remembrances of the one who has died.and told you stories of dancing ’til dawn to the sounds of the Big Band orchestras. ” A few generations ago these questions would not have to be asked.After you put down the receiver, you wonder, “What do I do now? People conformed to established rituals surrounding death and grief without questioning them.This is important especially if you are not planning to attend a funeral service or if there is no funeral service. It need not be long or witty, but a sincere message with a personal touch is best.Even if you attend a service, a letter is a nice, but not obligatory, thing to do. You do not send an email or post a “thinking of your family and you” entry on a funeral home’s website or Facebook. If you did not know the person well you can simply say something along the lines of, “I was deeply sorry to learn of the death of your aunt. You and your family and are in my thoughts and prayers.” Just make sure to be genuine. These letters will serve as tangible reminders for the grieving that people care for them or cared for the person they are mourning.The traditional funeral service is slowly becoming extinct.

Men are required to wear a head covering known as a kippah or yarmulke.As Ecclesiastes (it’s in the Bible) says, “there is a time to dance and a time to mourn.” A memorial service is not a time to dance.There may be smiles and slight laughs at a funeral as we remember the uniqueness of the person we are gathered to remember, but a Dean Martin-style roast it is not.You may want to acknowledge the death of someone in a more tangible manner than just a letter.In years gone by one sent flowers to the funeral home or a mourner’s house. They offset the odor of death and the not-too-perfect embalming process.

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